Secret Confessions

[Doomy]

[Edited Because I Fracking Can]

Welcome to the Secret Confessions thread. Beyond the pure anonymity of the internet, there lies a certain level of understanding behind all the accounts here on FF. The SC account carries burden of allowing the user to give a candid, private confession with (hopefully) understanding feedback. The SC thread is for other posters to give kind and/or helpful advice, words of empathy, or a secret of their own (under the SC name or not).

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[Secret Confessor]

@Devil's Sunrise - Well it feels like it. I mean, they obviously like each other more. They're dating each other. So that does make me everyone's least favorite.

@Megan - Well think about it. Why else would they start dating? Because they liked each other, and not me. I don't see how you think of it any other way.

@Lamp - But then they'll say the same thing that you guys are saying. That they still love me. But it'll probably be a lie.

[Lamp Post]

>.>
While people do choose can choose one person over another when it comes to dating, they aren't dating /because/ they just like another best, and for that reason only. It could've just. . . happened.

If you think it could be a lie, maybe you should work on getting other friends to be close too. If not, when really, stop worrying and get over it. Try to be happy for them.

[Megan (Fishy)]

^ This.

It could also be random gender/sexuality combination. Two guys and a girl, two girls and a guy. Or two of them could be gay/lesbian and one could be straight. Loads of things that could make it... not an option to 'choose one over the other' because it just wouldn't be possible.

And -- I think of it differently. Way differently. It's just... a different type of attraction. You can love your friends, but you don't want the same things from them as you do from your boyfriend/girlfriend, and I mean that in the cleanest way possible, I swear.

[Secret Confessor]

@Lamp - I am trying to be happy for them. They're great together. Everyone has wanted them to get together for a long time.

@Megan - I'm a girl, and there is one girl and one guy, and we're all straight. But still, that doesn't change the fact that even if they didn't really choose over me they still liked each other better.
And when you said you don't want the same things from them, do you mean like sex? If so, ew, I didn't need to think of that.

[Megan (Fishy)]

They didn't... like each other better, they like each other in a different way. I don't know how else to explain this to you.

I SAID "in the cleanest way possible." I promise that not everything I say is supposed to be sexual, just a lot of it.

[Secret Confessor]

But they like each other in the same way. That's why they were friends first, because they liked each other as friends just like they liked me, they just like each other more.

Oh. Sorry. What did you mean then?

[Megan (Fishy)]

>.<' *headdesks*

They developed feelings for each other. As far as I know, you don't have feelings for either of them. So I don't see why this bothers you. Be happy for them, and try to buffer their fights a little, you don't want to have to deal with the repercussions of that. This is why we have friends.

I meant, just... the emotional side of things. You ask different things of friends than you do of a boyfriend/girlfriend. I don't know how to explain this.

[Secret Confessor]

I don't have feelings for either of them, but I want to feel like I still matter to them. That's all I'm saying.

I don't see how you ask anything different emotionally of a boyfriend than of a friend.

[Megan (Fishy)]

>.>

You do still matter to them. I have no other way of saying this to you. Either accept that you still matter to them, or move on.
Do you have this issue every time a friend of yours gets a new boyfriend or girlfriend?

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Yes. There is a huge difference. (Anyone? Am I just crazy here, or is there a difference?)

[Secret Confessor]

How would you know if I still mattered to them or not?

No.

I don't see it.

I'm signing off of SC now.

[Megan (Fishy)]

...
Fine. You're right, I wouldn't know. You're under SC, I know nothing about you. Pardonne moi. >.>

[Secret Confessor]

1. It could happen. Usually when you "like-like" somebody you like everything or close to everything about them.

2. What do you mean?

3. I'm trying to be optimistic, still...