Secret Confessions

[Doomy]

[Edited Because I Fracking Can]

Welcome to the Secret Confessions thread. Beyond the pure anonymity of the internet, there lies a certain level of understanding behind all the accounts here on FF. The SC account carries burden of allowing the user to give a candid, private confession with (hopefully) understanding feedback. The SC thread is for other posters to give kind and/or helpful advice, words of empathy, or a secret of their own (under the SC name or not).

This account is a group account, and EVERYONE needs to treat it respectfully. By posting under the Secret Confessor, you are pledging to refrain from hate mail, "finger-pointing", insulting and being a jerkface. By posting in the SC thread, you are pledging to keep the comments respectful. This has not yet been a problem, but it's nice to have written down "just in case".

If you would like to use the SC account for ANY reason beside posting in this thread, please PM me- even if it's under the SC name (this is not to exert authority, but to maintain order over a very accessible account).

Thank you!


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[Secret Confessor]

They haven't tried to tell me!

[Fate]

It doesn't hurt to ask. Believe me, there are times I wish I'd ask someone while I had the chance.

[Fake]

...Unless they're extremely open, I doubt it.

Regardless, it's not like you've tried to tell them.

Just do what I suggested. Worst case scenario, nothing happens and you move on with your life.

[Secret Confessor]

This is a big crush, and I've never gotten over people easily. And worst case scenario, it gets extremely awkward between us and that person won't look at me the same ever again. And they ignore me.

[Fake]

...But they don't know who you are.

Just...forget it. Don't do anything. It's a waste of time.

[Fake]

Whomever you are, I'm having difficulty understanding your motives.

What exactly do you want us to help you with? It's quite obvious that you believe that they don't like you. So what do you want?

[Secret Confessor]

I don't know what I want. You should all ignore me, or laugh and throw food at me. Take your pick. All I know is that I have tried and failed to get over this person, and have such a huge crush on them that its completely crazy.

[o0_flying high_0o]

One final thought on the matter:
Okay. You can't get over them.

Either a) It will fade. Eventually. You can wait until this time. Hopefully it won't get in the way of your friendship still. Or b) It won't.

Now you can either do nothing, hope it'll fade soon, and try and get on with your friendship. Or you can tell them. Because just like you don't want to tell them, they probably don't want to tell you if they do feel anything. And if they don't, well at least you know. It might make things awkward, but if you're good friends perhaps you'll be able to move past this. It's obviously eating away at you, and not telling could potentially be as detrimental to your friendship as telling.

Not saying you should definitely tell them, or not to think before doing so... But it's probably a good idea if you at least considered it.

[Megan (Fishy)]

Mmmky, I wasn't here for a lot of this, so I'm coming into the matter late:

I like/liked somebody I met on the internet. He liked me back, too. We knew it wouldn't work, and tried to move on with our lives. We are such good friends that we can openly talk about this, and it hasn't hindered our friendship at all. He complains to me about his girlfriend, I tell him all about my date this weekend. It's lovely and wonderful, even if at times I wonder what it'd be like if he lived closer, or wish I could have gone out with him instead. That kind of thing. But for the most part, it's just a wonderful friendship.

What I'm trying to say is, if you're really good friends, this won't hurt that at all -- no matter the outcome. Good luck, whoever you are. We're all here for you, and I just want you to do what's best for you.

[Secret Confessor]

I give up. Ignore me now.

[Fake]

Sorry if I've been rude, by the way.

I have no tact whatsoever. ^_^

[pollyo]

*late*

Oh well, being late has never stopped me from giving my opinion/advice before. Its not like it doesn't still apply. And no, I doubt anyone is going to ignore you, nor should you ignore what you're feeling. That won't make it go away, it'll twist it into something evil and unbearable.

I've seen this scenario go several different ways:

1) Person liked a close friend, told them so, and the friendhip fell apart because the girl was embarassed and pissed off that he didn't feel the same way.

2) Person liked a close friend, confronted him about it, it was mutual, but they decided they loved their friendship too much to act on any feelings that went beyond platonic. They remain the best of friends to this day.

3) Person liked a close friend, told them, the feelings were mutual, and they became a couple. Seems to be working fine.

Now, where I've put up three scenarios that I've been privy to with close online friends, I'm sure there are hundreds of other ways it could play out for you. Without knowing who you are, or who the other person is, or how close you are/what sorts of things you talk about, its impossible to predict how they'll react, or how you'll handle it. What I do know is this: I hope you've got a friend, or friends, that you can confide in about this, and that they'll be there for you to help you through it, regardless of what happens. Sometimes you need a friend to push you to ask the hard questions, to be brave enough to confront that which you fear, or to fall back on and cry to when you fail. *hugs* Best of luck to you ^-^