Secret Confessions

[Doomy]

[Edited Because I Fracking Can]

Welcome to the Secret Confessions thread. Beyond the pure anonymity of the internet, there lies a certain level of understanding behind all the accounts here on FF. The SC account carries burden of allowing the user to give a candid, private confession with (hopefully) understanding feedback. The SC thread is for other posters to give kind and/or helpful advice, words of empathy, or a secret of their own (under the SC name or not).

This account is a group account, and EVERYONE needs to treat it respectfully. By posting under the Secret Confessor, you are pledging to refrain from hate mail, "finger-pointing", insulting and being a jerkface. By posting in the SC thread, you are pledging to keep the comments respectful. This has not yet been a problem, but it's nice to have written down "just in case".

If you would like to use the SC account for ANY reason beside posting in this thread, please PM me- even if it's under the SC name (this is not to exert authority, but to maintain order over a very accessible account).

Thank you!


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[Xuut]

Yes.

[EndOfTheEarth]

Oy.

If you're on here, you're probably smart enough to know that this is a bad idea.

Then again, if you're on here, you're probably not interested in hearing that. In that case, if you are going to cut yourself, you can at least do it with some amount of medical dignity:

1) Do a brief study of anatomy for the sake of avoiding major veins and arteries. Joints should be a no-no as a rule. Keep cuts shallow.

2) Disinfect the cutting area and cutting implement with rubbing alcohol beforehand. This will help prevent infection, which you want to prevent because first of all it can cause you major damage (limb paralysis up to death) and second of all because infected cuts get worse until noted and treated, which will of course draw your parents attention. Besides, I'm sure you've had at least one infection in your life, probably an ear infection, and you ought to know that the symptoms are similar.

3) After the cut, use gauze, cotton balls, toilet tissue or nose tissue and apply direct pressure to the cut until bleeding stops. It makes less of a mess, means less blood loss, and again these objects are sterile and help prevent infection.

4) Don't pick at the scabs afterwords. That leads to scarring, return of blood-flow, and an increased risk of infection.

Again, I highly discourage cutting as a whole. You should really try to find a solution that doesn't involve bodily injury.

[RantingSidekick]

You discourage it, but you just gave "advice"?

No thank you.

[EndOfTheEarth]

If a person wants to cut themself, I'm in no position to stop them, they have to do that on their own. I am in a position though to stop them from dieing of negligence to treat an infection.

Point and simple: if the person actually reasoned their way to cutting in the first place, I doubt that they'd be willing to listen to real-world reason on the matter. We can say "I'm sorry you feel that way" and "Would you like some tea?" and "You know that this isn't a good idea" repeatedly, and it won't do any good, because when you're depressed, you hear these things, and as a result, only feel more sorry for yourself.
People like this need to be reminded that self inflicted damage carries consequences, even if they can find ways to remove the social ramifications. If I can't slap said person back to their senses, then I can sure as heck try to shock them out of it.

[Hannah]

*wasn't going to comment* *failed*

Ok, cutting isn't synonymous with depression, and I don't know whether to be offended or not at the idea that anyone who cuts him/herself is just feeling 'sorry for themselves'. Screw this, I'm offended. And you're acting like SC is just being stupid, as you wish you could 'slap them to their senses'. I have to admit, I'm a bit offended at that too, though I'm not even the SC in this case. People who cut can do so for a variety of reasons, but if they were emotionally stable enough to think about disinfecting their razor, they provably wouldn't be cutting themselves at that moment. I didn't comment on your first comment because I've been practicing self-control. (Aren't you proud of me?) But this has gone on two comments too long.

[EndOfTheEarth]

Then since this isn't depression, the person isn't doing emergency self-surgery, and I'm going to assume this isn't masochism, can you explain what the subject is feeling that would drive them to these ends?

[Hannah]

Ok, my bad, I thought you were talking about medically classified 'depression' not 'wow, I'm feeling so depressed today.'

"Clinical depression is a mood disorder in which feelings of sadness, loss, anger, or frustration interfere with everyday life for an extended period of time."

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003213.htm

Cutting yourself, while commonly linked with depression, does not mean you are depressed.

[EndOfTheEarth]

Regardless, we're discussing a negative frame of mind, which according to the American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language (4th ed. 2009) can be replaced with the word "depressed," even if the frame of mind isn't clinical.

And as I pointed out before, it could mean that the person in question is practicing self surgery or is masochistic. Neither seem to be the case here though, so I'm going to say they are in a sad or despondent condition-- depressed.

[Hannah]

Ok, fine. You used the word, so you can define it. Care to address any of my other points or are we done here?

[EndOfTheEarth]

Regarding my animosity towards SC? I've already addressed them below.

[Devil's Sunrise]

Hey guys? Shut the fuck up.

[Devil's Sunrise]

SC, disregard a major amount of this, it's not directed at you.

EndOfTheEarth, I feel, is correct in this matter. One should always be warned of the risks of what they are doing when there are such risks. While it's true that saying something like "*offers tea*" (the absolute most abysmally and earth-shockingly annoying thing to get after an SC post) or "PM me" (they would just C/P the SC post in a PM from the SC account...) would definitely cushion his reply better and make it more beneficial to the poster, what he said was completely right.
One needs to know the dangers of cutting, there aren't even commercials/programs against it. It's like telling someone "DON'T DO THIS DRUG" with absolutely no negative side effects listed. You wouldn't not smoke if you didn't know it ruined your lungs and mouth, and you wouldn't not do meth if you didn't know it made you a zombie. Sometimes SC posts are looking for help, not comfort, and even if they're not looking for it, it's called "help" for a reason.


Now I'd like to say one last tip, and that's to not reply to SC comments directed at the confessor if you are not the confessor. Why would it be more comforting to the person if you start arguing about who's being comforting about what?