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Permalink Reply by Fate on December 4, 2009 at 11:16am
Been there. Still am there. It's painful and it sucks, but at least you're not invisible to him. *is invisible despite how close we once were*
It should get better. Try to stay friends, if you can't be a couple. James and I... I have know idea what the hell we did. We went on one date, never said we were a couple, and meh. It was awkward. But we're friends now. Even if he still likes me and I have no romantic interest in him whatsoever.
So, yeah. The friendship is important, and if you can't be "together" try and stay friends.
Unless of course you like someone, they have some amount of interest in you, but they play it up out of sheer boredom and string you along for three months, when the suddenly drop all contact with no warning, and refuse to answer any texts, phone calls, PMs or emails, and they won't even say anything mean to you, which would at least give you a clear idea of what the hell's going on. Shut up. I'm not bitter.
Permalink Reply by Fate on December 4, 2009 at 11:37am
Could be worse.
You could break up with them and have them start stalking you.
Or like, you could have known him since, oh I don't know he was born. And been best friends all your lives, until he became popular and refused to even acknowledge your existence. And even though you see him every damn day, except Saturdays and the Sundays you ditch out on church you almost never speak. His best friend speaks to you more than him... *is a little bitter*
*has one that she'll willingly admit to, one that doesn't count as it had no effect on her, and one that may or may not exist, because she's schizophrenic like that, apparently*