Secret Confessions

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[Edited Because I Fracking Can]

Welcome to the Secret Confessions thread. Beyond the pure anonymity of the internet, there lies a certain level of understanding behind all the accounts here on FF. The SC account carries burden of allowing the user to give a candid, private confession with (hopefully) understanding feedback. The SC thread is for other posters to give kind and/or helpful advice, words of empathy, or a secret of their own (under the SC name or not).

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[Megan (Fishy)]

Imao, if you can't love them as a friend, you can't love them as a boyfriend/girlfriend either. But that's probably different from most, I have some twisted views on love and dating.

[Lamp Post]

"if you can't love them as a friend, you can't love them as a boyfriend/girlfriend either"
It's not uncommon that someone'll love someone they loathe as a friend. And vice versa.

[Megan (Fishy)]

Which is why I said that it's probably different for most. I just... can't imagine that, at all, personally.

Edit - You know, trying to explain this in my head just made something I was thinking about for awhile make so much more sense.

[Lamp Post]

How so? *nosy*

That's good.

[Megan (Fishy)]

I don't know. I just.... I can't imagine being able to say you "love" a person, when you can't even be friends with them. It's just a personal thing, I guess, but for me I couldn't do that... Which explains why I've only ever "liked," "fallen for," whatever, close friends. Which sucks.

[RantingSidekick]

I dunno, I feel you get to know someone differently if you are dating them rather than becoming friends.

And being friends /then/ dating would be far too much information for me to handle. *personally* Not that I object to dating friends.

[Megan (Fishy)]

I have never had even the slightest inclination to want to date somebody who wasn't a very close friend.

[RantingSidekick]

I mean, I would certainly want to become friends with said person, but I...

I hate all the boys from my middle school.
And they are the majority of the freshman class.
And I like meeting new people in general, so win-win?

[Lamp Post]

I agree with Megan. I just kind of wanted to argue, in my previous statement.

[Megan (Fishy)]

XD Of course.
I just... "liking" or "loving" somebody is a huge emotional trust you give them sometimes involuntarily. It just makes sense, to me, that you'd want it to be somebody you know and love already.
Plus I'm just completely hopeless when it comes to this stuff, I rarely like somebody, when I do it's always the wrong person, and I fall hard

[Lamp Post]

Meh, for me it's pretty much the same trust I give some of my best of friends of my life. Usually, though the person didn't really seem to have, originally, earned quite /that/ level of trust, and definitely not so just. . .all of a sudden. It makes me feel so vulnerable. D:

[RantingSidekick]

I have trust issues.

Badly. I trust myself, and only myself.

I'd rather put trust into a new relationship, ruin it, then become friends; rather than take a good friendship and just plan ruin it.