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He fucking showed up again. And he's flirting majorly again, 'cause that's what he does.
And I don't know what to do because my boyfriend is not technically and publicly my boyfriend even though I think he might possibly have said "I love you" and I missed it completely and I don't even know how I feel about that and oh my fucking God this is so messed up.
So how do I tell a guy who technically hasn't made any real advances that that's not cool because I'm kinda but not technically taken?
You could always say that you fancy someone else at present, should he do anything. And just make sure you two don't end up alone together. Or start ignoring him, or walking away, etc, when he starts flirting.
The problem is that he lives in another state, and other than a few times per year, we don't see each other. I even defriended him on facebook but now he's emailing me. But the things he says make me feel uncomfortable... If I called him out on it though I know he'd say "don't flatter yourself, I was just joking" or something.
You can still call him out on it. If he were to say that you could always counter with it's still improper and you'd rather not talk to him should he continue it.
Permalink Reply by Fate on October 30, 2010 at 11:13am
*hugs* *offers tea* *gives chocolate* *hands ice-cream* I don't have much to say to that, but those are all the things my friends will do for me when I'm sad. *huggles* If you wanna talk, I'm here.