Secret Confessions

[Doomy]

[Edited Because I Fracking Can]

Welcome to the Secret Confessions thread. Beyond the pure anonymity of the internet, there lies a certain level of understanding behind all the accounts here on FF. The SC account carries burden of allowing the user to give a candid, private confession with (hopefully) understanding feedback. The SC thread is for other posters to give kind and/or helpful advice, words of empathy, or a secret of their own (under the SC name or not).

This account is a group account, and EVERYONE needs to treat it respectfully. By posting under the Secret Confessor, you are pledging to refrain from hate mail, "finger-pointing", insulting and being a jerkface. By posting in the SC thread, you are pledging to keep the comments respectful. This has not yet been a problem, but it's nice to have written down "just in case".

If you would like to use the SC account for ANY reason beside posting in this thread, please PM me- even if it's under the SC name (this is not to exert authority, but to maintain order over a very accessible account).

Thank you!


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[Megan (Fishy)]

:DDD

Even if it's for a silly reason, I'm glad you're happy again.
Now hopefully Pyro gets online so you don't get all sad all over again....

[Devil's Sunrise]

I don't really get to contact my girlfriend for the next like 5 days for break... In any way/shape/form except for a band concert tomorrow we're volunteering to perform in.

She's starting to feel insecure about our relationship, but only the literal aspects of it, like how we don't get to hang out that much and seem distanced. It's getting to me when she's down about it, but I don't worry about our relationship that much. I may be too chill, but whatever.

That last sentence may crop up as a new catchphrase.

[Secret Confessor]

Somebody please comment on this and give me advice.

I did something stupid. A few days ago, my boyfriend and me were "sexting" and I sent him a picture. It wasn't a nude picture, just a very. . . well, "sexy" picture.

I don't think he would do anything, but now I want to break up with him.

But that picture makes me afraid to break up with him. . .

[Secret Confessor]

I've made that mistake too.

Fortunately, I was able to get ahold of his phone and delete it before any real damage was done.

[Megan (Fishy)]

I don't know if this would work with your boyfriend, but I think it'd work with mine. Maybe. I haven't tried...

Just, casually bring it up. Tell him you're paranoid and it makes you uncomfortable to have pictures like that floating around, like, what if his parents found his phone or something.
Or make up some bullshit about phones being hacked or something. Hey, you're breaking up with him anyway, so building a "solid foundation of honesty" doesn't matter as much at this point.

Convince him to delete it, playing the sympathy card, and promise it'll be worth it to him because seeing you in whatever clothing, or lack thereof, IRL would be better.

Ask him if he's deleted it. He'll say yes. Make him promise, make him pinky-promise, make him swear on his life. Don't drop it.
The reason this is here, is because, face it, he's a guy. With a sexy picture of his girlfriend. There's a good chance he lied when he said he deleted it, but if he sees you flipping out about it, he probably wouldn't be able to live with lying over and over again like that.

Then, you're free to break up right then, or later on, or whenever is most comfortable with you.

[Hannah]

I only see my boyfriend once a week, and we can't talk in private or show any kind of affection. At best, I talk to him online for around ten minutes a day.

I know I'm a priority, and he talks to me as much as he can, but this is incredibly hard. Even He was easier to communicate with while he was living in ANOTHER STATE AND GOING TO COLLEGE.

[Secret Confessor]

Nobody talks to me here.

I don't know why, but it makes me kinda sad.

Edit: I mean, I'm not close to anybody or anything, and I never was... it just...

Hell, I don't know.

I just want somebody to talk to.

Because I don't have anybody to talk to in real life.

And...

God, never mind.

I'll... I'll shut up now.

[Dual]

D: I'm sorry. I feel a bit awful. To be fair, I talk with Contra most of the time as well as myself, so I pretty much ignore everybody.

[Hannah]

It might not be that we don't want to talk to you, but that we don't have much to say.

Try asking people questions. It's a guaranteed conversation-starter. If you post regularly, I've yet to see these people be anything but friendly.

[Secret Confessor]

It's not that you guys aren't friendly, it's just that I DO post, but I don't ever get any responses. Never. Even with questions and really long posts.

[Hannah]

Yeah. Sometimes when I go away for a bit it's hard to get back into the swing of things.

Try starting with replies to other people's posts? I have a firm theory that the more often you post, the easier people find it to reply to you.

[Contradiction]

If I knew who you were this would be more helpful...

I guess just post in response to people. That's what I do. I rarely get comments on my posts, so I just reply to other people's.