What are you doing right now?

[EndOfTheEarth]

Besides posting on here and replying to this thread. Original credit for this goes back to Fate and Nathan on MX.

[EndOfTheEarth]

What's the line? "50k words, 30 days, no excuses" I guess my motivation is that I use NaNo to expunge whatever grand idea has been bugging me for the rest of the year so that I can get a draft out of the way and focus on my current primary novel project.

Job is alright. Isn't particularly exciting and the writing part is small in comparison to the time spent waiting on other people to send me pictures or moving text boxes around in Adobe InDesign, but the people are pretty nice to me, even if they aren't nice to each other. Engineering and International Marketing are going to come to blows eventually, I think.

And yes, Doctor Who is awesome. Also, if you haven't had the chance, go see Adventure in Space and Time and Science of Doctor Who with Brian Cox. The latter is on youtube.

[Xuut]

WHAT NO I HAVEN'T DAMMIT THE SPACE CHANNEL IS THE ONLY CHANNEL I GET THAT SHOWS DR WHO AND I DID NOT SEE IT. :((( YOUTUBE TIME.

[Mia Love <3]

So Thanksgiving officially starts in 15 minutes; hope all of you are doing well and have a lovely holiday. (:

[Jessie~the~Singer]

A little late to the party, but a happy Thanksgiving and Hanukkah to everyone!

[MusicInTheWind]

I just turned 18 on Wednesday so I decided that now would be a good time to do a bit of an update.

Senior year is going alright. Pre-calculus is the worst class I've ever taken and I hate every minute of it. However, zoology and having a senior free period makes up for how horrible that is. Economics is the most stressful class of this semester. Two massive projects that had to be done in less than two weeks. I'm so glad that this semester is almost over. Next semester will be ten times easier so that's fantastic.

Some great things are happening in my personal life right now. I'm making new friends which is a new thing for me but I'm starting to come out of my shell and this has led to a possible relationship in the future with a guy I've known for a while now. He's absolutely fantastic and he's quickly becoming one of my best friends. I can't wait until we can start a relationship and he's excited about it as well.

[Omega]

Welcome to adulthood!

[nathan_p]

I'm still in pretty poor health, but I thought I'd pop back around to reassure you all that I'm not dead.

Cortisone shot didn't work, and MRIs of my spine didn't show anything. I had blood drawn a week ago to test for a bunch of strange viral diseases and a tick-borne illness that I could've caught this summer while in Arkansas.

Next week I see a rheumatologist and a neurologist. Don't know what the results will be yet, of course, but I'll have to reduce my class load next semester, which I'm irritated about. One of my friends is graduating from college this semester, and if I were on track, I'd be graduating next spring. This leg problem will delay my graduation by at least a year.

[Fate]

Good luck, man. I know how much cutting back on college because of health sucks balls. And getting off track for graduation is frustrating as hell.

Keep us posted. I hoping for the best for you.

[Omega]

Hey there bro, that sucks.

Sounds pretty serious (or maybe just one of those wtf things) if you're getting flung at every consultant out. Take care of yourself, aye?

[Contradiction]

I don't know what to do.

My girlfriend and I are still together - I don't really know how. We fight about stupid shit all the time, we never really resolve any of our issues (we just apologize and sort of move on), we don't even have very much in common. Mostly we talk about seeing each other, which we will in about a week, if everything goes to plan. We talk about Christmas presents and dates and cuddling. 

I like her, I do. She's fun to text when we're not fighting and she's fun to talk to on the phone and she's fun to be around. But we're not ever together. I haven't seen her since August and I probably won't see her again until May after winter break. And she was talking this morning about how little we'll probably get to see each other this month, too.

I don't think this relationship is long-term.

It's because of this relationship that I decided I was bi. I've come out to most of my friends and my mother.

It almost seems too important to end. And I feel like ending it now, this close to the time we've been waiting for for 4 months, is like giving up. But I also feel like waiting until we're actually together to break it off is cruel. I don't feel like I used to about us, but I don't want to break her heart. When we're not fighting, she still insists on calling me perfect.

I still sort of hold out hope that seeing her is going to remind me why I loved her in the first place. I did (I do?) love her. She's not as amazing to me as she used to be though, and the fights are exhausting.

I'm just kind of lost.

[EndOfTheEarth]

Break up with her. What happens after a while is that you find yourself dating a concept instead of a person, and that's never healthy for either of you. This happens even if you're talking to the person every night over Skype.

I had a similar experience. Was dating a girl long distance for four and a half years, and sometimes it would be more than two months before we saw each other. I spent a year feeling about as conflicted as you seem to be before I went through with it.

Will warn you though, it's going to hurt like hell for about two weeks and will fester like a repaired bone fracture for a long time after until you find someone else.

Finally, waiting until you are together to break up is, contrary to what you might think, the nicest thing you can do. It shows the other person that you still care about them enough to be vulnerable in front of them, and it will give both of you a better sense of closure. Feel free to cry your eyes out while doing so. No last kisses, but last hugs are fine if she wants one. Be willing to answer all questions; honesty is important. Do it in a private place, close to her home if possible, and be able to go home or to a hotel yourself immediately after. After the deed is done, give her about two weeks of breathing room before talking to her again.

You are going to break her heart no matter what. The only thing you do have control over is the amount of closure both of you are getting, and I guarantee you, you get more of that in person.

[Fate]

I largely agree with everything.

Especially breaking up in person. Personally, I think you should always break up in person.

And once guilt is a large reason that you're staying in a relationship, it's probably time to leave.

Feel free to talk to us any time, if you're feeling down about it.