Secret Confessions

[Doomy]

[Edited Because I Fracking Can]

Welcome to the Secret Confessions thread. Beyond the pure anonymity of the internet, there lies a certain level of understanding behind all the accounts here on FF. The SC account carries burden of allowing the user to give a candid, private confession with (hopefully) understanding feedback. The SC thread is for other posters to give kind and/or helpful advice, words of empathy, or a secret of their own (under the SC name or not).

This account is a group account, and EVERYONE needs to treat it respectfully. By posting under the Secret Confessor, you are pledging to refrain from hate mail, "finger-pointing", insulting and being a jerkface. By posting in the SC thread, you are pledging to keep the comments respectful. This has not yet been a problem, but it's nice to have written down "just in case".

If you would like to use the SC account for ANY reason beside posting in this thread, please PM me- even if it's under the SC name (this is not to exert authority, but to maintain order over a very accessible account).

Thank you!


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[Lamp Post]

*gives tea*

I. . . understand that. It sucks.

Good luck. We love you. Yell at them if they deserve it.

[Megan (Fishy)]

*loves you too*

I can't just yell at them, it does nothing good, only bad. If I get upset at anyone, it's always seen as me overreacting.
(Okay, even though nobody knows any of my RL friends, I have to exclude Kayla. I'd feel horrible to group her in with everyone else, she's not like that.)

[Lamp Post]

Well, if they're being horrible to you, you need to let them know. Sometimes. . . . you unintentionally end up treating people like that. My friends do that to me, or have been nearing that point. But it's. . . . pretty much mutual. . . for the most part. We're only able to be so harsh with another because we call another out when one goes too far, though.

Don't just scream, but. . . . let them know you're tired of it.

[Megan (Fishy)]

Eh, they're not though, only when it suits them. I can't say that I have no friends, or that my friends hate me, because they don't. They like me just fine, they're just well aware of the obscene amount of things they can pull and get away with, and the abuse it.

And it'll turn out all bad anyways. They don't take me seriously when it comes to things like this -- like I said, it'll be made out to be me overreacting.

[Lamp Post]

Then. . . you need to not let them get away with it. Stand up for yourself, let them know it just can't happen. Get another friend to tell them that they're abusing it? You need to do something. Because that's not okay. There has to be a line.

So?
You need to say something. Maybe get Kayla to take your side with it, or someone else, before you tell the rest of your friends to lay off. You're not overreacting.

[Megan (Fishy)]

Yeah, I know. >.>
But it's easier to just deal with it. *shrugs*

Yeah... I don't know. It's not that bad, it just gets irritating from time to time. I have her, and you guys, and other friends from different groups, anyway.

[o0_flying high_0o]

*hugshugshugs*

You're not dispensable here, if that counts at all...

[Megan (Fishy)]

*hugs back*

It does count, very much. :)
And I'm kind of glad. I love you guys, I love it here.

[EndOfTheEarth]

Consider taking a course or getting a book on "assertive speaking" Learn how to do that, and all these issues will evaporate.

[RantingSidekick]

Well, speaking assertively doesn't matter at this point.

She needs her friends to take her seriously, first.

[EndOfTheEarth]

And you do that by being assertive.

[RantingSidekick]

*thinks*

I suppose, but there is a problem with being overly assertive.
I don't know how assertive she is in RL, so any change could seem overly.

I was going to suggest just talking to them, each...