Secret Confessions

[Doomy]

[Edited Because I Fracking Can]

Welcome to the Secret Confessions thread. Beyond the pure anonymity of the internet, there lies a certain level of understanding behind all the accounts here on FF. The SC account carries burden of allowing the user to give a candid, private confession with (hopefully) understanding feedback. The SC thread is for other posters to give kind and/or helpful advice, words of empathy, or a secret of their own (under the SC name or not).

This account is a group account, and EVERYONE needs to treat it respectfully. By posting under the Secret Confessor, you are pledging to refrain from hate mail, "finger-pointing", insulting and being a jerkface. By posting in the SC thread, you are pledging to keep the comments respectful. This has not yet been a problem, but it's nice to have written down "just in case".

If you would like to use the SC account for ANY reason beside posting in this thread, please PM me- even if it's under the SC name (this is not to exert authority, but to maintain order over a very accessible account).

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[Devil's Sunrise]

I get that too with people, it's alright. Take the initiative to kick the shit out of the silence. Dance. Dance a lot.

As for liking, I can't give advice, I need my own.

[Hannah]

>.> I can't help you. I have enough trouble of my own. If I gave you advice, it would screw up your life like it did mine.

Just... If you like him, and he's taken (what it sounds like) maybe your best option would be to stop. Love triangles only end up in one person getting hurt. And I assume that your friendship with this girl is more important than that.

[Megan (Fishy)]

Wait, what?

She likes her friends' bf? I thought she was just jealous of him. *confused*

[Secret Confessor]

Oh, God. >.<" I'm great at accidentally making things sound bad... No, I don't like him. As a friend I do, but on no other level. I'm just... scared, I guess, that her relationship with him means more than our friendship. She's told me that she loves me just as much, and maybe that was true at one point, but...

[Hannah]

Oops. XD My bad...

[Secret Confessor]

Haha. XD No worries.

[pollyo]

Boyfriend relationships are often more...fragile, than friendships. She may feel just super comfortable with you, while she feels she has to "work" to keep her relationship with him functional, thus it would seem to you like she's exerting more energy towards him, spending more time with him, possibly all consumed by him, or at least pre-occupied. I highly doubt it's something you did, it's entirely natural (though less than healthy) for people to get wrapped up in new relationships, seemingly leaving their old friends in the dust.

Have you told her how you feel? If not, do so, without being accusational. Once you cop a tone, she'll get defensive, and you'll be left hurting that much more.

[Devil's Sunrise]

Lol, "stop".

Doesn't work that way.

[EndOfTheEarth]

Hmmm...

Relationships suck up time faster than black holes do, and as a result it causes a lot of pressure on the person's other relationships. Don't worry, your friend's thoughts of you haven't changed, just her scheduling.

[Doomy]

Not-So-Secret-Confession

I is getting a little tired of teenage boys. I mean... such a teen-boy move, trying to cop a feel like that.

To put it more clearly:

This weekend I was out camping with a male friend of mine. He was ignoring me for quite a bit, then got me to his tent where he got a little frisky. I only ended up stopping him when he had me pinned underneath him on the cot. >.> I'm thinking that I may need to set some clearer boundaries.

[nathan_p]

That's the point where you knee him in the yarbles. Or slap him, whichever.

If he doesn't know the meaning of the word "no"... teach him.

[EndOfTheEarth]

Yarbles... haven't heard that word since the last time I saw A Clockwork Orange.

But yeah, that's an effective strategy, or even threatening it is an effective strategy.