Welcome to the Secret Confessions thread. Beyond the pure anonymity of the internet, there lies a certain level of understanding behind all the accounts here on FF. The SC account carries burden of allowing the user to give a candid, private confession with (hopefully) understanding feedback. The SC thread is for other posters to give kind and/or helpful advice, words of empathy, or a secret of their own (under the SC name or not).
This account is a group account, and EVERYONE needs to treat it respectfully. By posting under the Secret Confessor, you are pledging to refrain from hate mail, "finger-pointing", insulting and being a jerkface. By posting in the SC thread, you are pledging to keep the comments respectful. This has not yet been a problem, but it's nice to have written down "just in case".
If you would like to use the SC account for ANY reason beside posting in this thread, please PM me- even if it's under the SC name (this is not to exert authority, but to maintain order over a very accessible account).
How to keep someone away:
-Be firm.
-Don't smile while saying what you have to say.
-No negotiations,
-Push off any further physical contact, look like your pissed, and tell them that you'll tell (someone in authority) else if she doesn't stop immediately.
Yes, I know it seems blunt and harsh, but it's the only way to get your point across fully.
A friend of mine tried to hang himself recently. (He was not successful thankfully.) When I heard about it from two of my other friends, my first response was that I wanted to smack him upside the head. Him and his other friend because they've both been talking about suicide. It wasn't really for the right reason either (my wish to hit them, not their wish for suicide). More like a "What the hell could be so wrong in their lives?" reason, than an "Oh my God, what the hell were you thinking? I could never lose you." kind of reason. I am not happy with myself, but it's the truth. I know his mom's a psycho bitch, but that's never bothered him before and as far as I know she's /always/ been a psycho bitch. I want to talk to him about it, but he doesn't know I know, and I think it would be rather awkward. Besides, it isn't really my business. We aren't that close. He's a friend of my best friend and a friend of my good friend, but still.
A really close friend of mine just informed me that she can... basically see right through me. I mean, she didn't know it when she said it. But we were talking, and the conversation turned to something-or-other and she mentioned something about how "you act like you're so independent and you don't need anyone, but you really do need people, and you try to hide it but... you can be very vulnerable."
>.> That kind of scared me. She's not supposed to know that.