Secret Confessions

[Doomy]

[Edited Because I Fracking Can]

Welcome to the Secret Confessions thread. Beyond the pure anonymity of the internet, there lies a certain level of understanding behind all the accounts here on FF. The SC account carries burden of allowing the user to give a candid, private confession with (hopefully) understanding feedback. The SC thread is for other posters to give kind and/or helpful advice, words of empathy, or a secret of their own (under the SC name or not).

This account is a group account, and EVERYONE needs to treat it respectfully. By posting under the Secret Confessor, you are pledging to refrain from hate mail, "finger-pointing", insulting and being a jerkface. By posting in the SC thread, you are pledging to keep the comments respectful. This has not yet been a problem, but it's nice to have written down "just in case".

If you would like to use the SC account for ANY reason beside posting in this thread, please PM me- even if it's under the SC name (this is not to exert authority, but to maintain order over a very accessible account).

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[Secret Confessor]

I see what you're saying. But still, I don't like the idea that they care about each other more than they care about me. Maybe it's selfish but still.

[Lamp Post]

1. This is not at all true. Some, yeah, do get caught up and end up adoring everything about the person they fancy. Others can loathe every loads about the person they like. It's not a given.

[o0_flying high_0o]

*gives tea*

I think you're missing the point here, love. Without trying to sound repetitive, the fact they want to be more than friends does not mean they value you any less as a friend. Their feelings towards you will remain exactly the same, and well, you make it sound like they've known they like each other for quite a while too, so, their behaviour towards each other probably won't change a whole deal, at least, not in front of you. And if they ever make you feel left out, say something, they probably don't mean too.

Did you by chance, ever like the boy as more than a friend too? Would you've liked him to pick you instead, or just... not sure that you like that there's now a two within your group?

[nathan_p]

I actually get that feeling all the time _o_ So you're not alone.

[nathan_p]

Post-meds is when it started happening for me.

[RantingSidekick]

I've had that feeling.

I miss you. :3 A lot.
We need to talk more.

[RantingSidekick]

Please don't respond, definitely don't feel obligated to. I dislike dumping this sort of thing on you guys. Posting this helps me feel better.
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I should just talk to him.

But the last time I did, he got really upset with himself.

Other people being upset hurts so badly.

It's unfair of me to bring this up to him. Seems malicious.
Nothing good can come of it.

I'd rather myself be unhappy than have both us us be.
But saying that^ makes me seem like I'm begging for attention.

What do I want? Attention that...isn't just to please him.
There is no way to put that nicely.

Confession: I'm tired of hiding behind SC.

[EndOfTheEarth]

Can you be more specific? Are you saying that you're after attention that isn't purely romance-based? I'd like to help you work this out if possible.

[RantingSidekick]

Attention that isn't... *coughs* so sexually driven.

<.s>V.V

I've almost begun to appreciate DMB's detached manner....

[EndOfTheEarth]

May I recommend pushing for dates in lighted places with lots of other people about? A walk in a park or meeting for lunch can make for a good litmus test.

[RantingSidekick]

Litmus test? xDD
You just won so many points.

Thanks.
I'm not really sure what I'm going to do if I do anything, but I've finished venting and feel quite better.

[Lamp Post]

*offers tea*

We love you. Good luck.
Try not to make yourself too unhappy. v.v
Don't be afraid to be blunt. It's better you try to work something out, than just. . . fear making one/both of you unhappy.

Confession: I have a really hard time not commenting when someone says not to comment. v.v Then I feel like I'm just a useless friend, and like I can't offer tea, which. . . most of the time, I end up commenting anyway, and then wonder if that was the wrong thing to do. . .