Secret Confessions

[Doomy]

[Edited Because I Fracking Can]

Welcome to the Secret Confessions thread. Beyond the pure anonymity of the internet, there lies a certain level of understanding behind all the accounts here on FF. The SC account carries burden of allowing the user to give a candid, private confession with (hopefully) understanding feedback. The SC thread is for other posters to give kind and/or helpful advice, words of empathy, or a secret of their own (under the SC name or not).

This account is a group account, and EVERYONE needs to treat it respectfully. By posting under the Secret Confessor, you are pledging to refrain from hate mail, "finger-pointing", insulting and being a jerkface. By posting in the SC thread, you are pledging to keep the comments respectful. This has not yet been a problem, but it's nice to have written down "just in case".

If you would like to use the SC account for ANY reason beside posting in this thread, please PM me- even if it's under the SC name (this is not to exert authority, but to maintain order over a very accessible account).

Thank you!


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[o0_flying high_0o]

He's not outlining the dangers of cutting though, he's instructing them on how to do it safely... So, basically saying that if you follow these guidelines then well, it's /safe/ to cut. At least that's the general gist I got from it.

Now, while End does make sure to say he discourages cutting, he is still instilling in them false sense of security. Even if they were to follow those guidelines something could still go horribly wrong, so yes, it makes perfect sense that people are objecting to his message.

[Devil's Sunrise]

I dunno, I'd be pretty scared if I saw it needed this much protection for one simple cut. EndOf is not very opinionated and not very comforting in the slightest, but I would rather have that post there than deleted.

Now did nobody see the last part in my comment? Really?

[EndOfTheEarth]

It is technically safe to cut if you follow all the precautions, we hire people called surgeons to do this for us, because most folks don't know proper procedure when it comes to making cuts, and those who do usually do not want to cause themselves pain.

And I again feel that I must point out that as a bunch of words on a page, we are in no position to stage a proper intervention. Therefore, if we cannot convince them out of it, we ought to try to make sure that they don't kill themselves in the process.
Think of it like skydiving; yes it's extremely dumb, yes the consequences are extremely bad if you do it wrong--but since you seem determined how to jump out of a plane, here's how to keep from dieing.

[Hannah]

See right there? 'Extremely dumb'? Yeah, that's insulting too.

SC posted as the Secret Confessor for the fear that he/she would be judged/treated differently. I'm sorry to say that his/her fears were correct, as you seem to be insulting them constantly.

[nathan_p]

"Extremely dumb" in the sense of 'makes no logical sense'.

But people still skydive.

I can see where EndOf is coming from -- causing harm to the body without knowing what you're fucking with can be dangerous. Deliberately not taking precautions to make sure you live to see another day... yeah, I'd kinda call that dumb. (Especially given risks of infection. Infection is a bitch, and it's a hell of a way to die.)

But self-harm also satisfies an 'itch', and it can be difficult to find another, less dangerous way to meet that need.

By the way, if you're gonna call me on something, yes, I went through a cutting phase.

[EndOfTheEarth]

Well, I'm not about to tell them that personal injury is a good thing.

And so as long as it is a doubly anonymous personality, it makes sense to be straightforward. If you actually knew who this person was and could identify with them, you'd be less likely to do so.

Furthermore, by posting as SC, the user knew that they were taking the same way of disabling personal affiliation as we all did by first assuming NING aliases. The idea being that upon shedding the SC alias, they also shed the possible attackers. They go back to being treated "normally" by others, but at the same time still have the results of their SC interaction.

[Hannah]

It seemed that he was calling the act it's self dumb. Which is either untrue or insulting, depending on which definition you choose.

[Hannah]

Err, was this directed at me? I wasn't arguing about whether he was being comforting or not, I said that his comment(s) offended me and several of his generalities were incorrect.

[nathan_p]

I'd like to add and clarify a little here.

2) In case you don't remember / know the symptoms of infection: the area might swell or be hot to the touch. It is a very bad sign if red lines start spreading out from the area. No, you can't treat this yourself.

3 and 4) Bandage the cut. Keeping it exposed to the outside is a way to invite not only germs, but unwanted attention. Also, I would recommend using Neosporin or something like it to prevent scarring. I got lucky in the scarring game. Unless it's very cold, my scars are hardly visible.

I don't have the power to stop you, but I can tell you that I've been in the same place.

[Hannah]

She got /extremely/ lucky. Even if you don't scar anywhere on your body normally, like me, you could still scar even with treating the cuts properly. I guess... Maybe people just scar more easily on their wrists? My cuts were never even that deep.

[EndOfTheEarth]

Thanks for the additional notes.

[Devil's Sunrise]

The thing, I find, about friendship, is that it always works out somehow in the end, and almost always in a way you don't yet understand or possibly won't even after it works out. I can't offer any advice on the actual situation, only on changing your frame of mind. Never think about the facts or little bits of friendship, such as how many times a day you can see each other or how much you like each other. Just go with the flow. Friendships can survive arguments and full-scale fights, not seeing each other is something that requires effort, not actual mending.