Welcome to the Secret Confessions thread. Beyond the pure anonymity of the internet, there lies a certain level of understanding behind all the accounts here on FF. The SC account carries burden of allowing the user to give a candid, private confession with (hopefully) understanding feedback. The SC thread is for other posters to give kind and/or helpful advice, words of empathy, or a secret of their own (under the SC name or not).
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When people screwed things up, I used to always find some way to blame myself.
Because if I blame myself, there's still a glimmer of hope that I can fix things. If I blame other people, I have to trust them to fix things. And they don't deserve to be trusted. Because they keep screwing things up.
And they were wrong, this doesn't help my self esteem. It just makes me an ass.
My semi-friend (someone I like but never really choose to hang out with) is saying I shouldn't date my boyfriend and that I only think I like him because I'm desperate. (Ironic considering he was one of two choices I had at the time...)
And she thinks he stalked her or something last year, but she's just milking the attention. He told me what happened, and she's smoking crack.
She's jealous. Not because she likes him -- if she says she doesn't, take her word for it. But the guy who liked her now doesn't. Regardless of her feelings for him (or lack thereof), everyone likes a little admiration.
Aaand... can I just say, take everything with a grain of salt.
Girls claiming they were "stalked" are generally exaggerating.
Guys claiming their exs are crazy are generally full of shit.
Put them both together, and you have a slightly over-eager guy and a drama queen girl. Which seems really likely, doesn't it?
He never said she was crazy, that was a little bit of exaggeration on my part. He just said he used to like her and she clearly didn't like him and then he met me. He's perfect.
The troublesome thing about humans is that they aren't normal, they're distributed over a bell curve. Based on this, it's impossible to determine if you are "normal." The only thing that it is possible to predict is if you're growing healthily up to an age of three years, and even that is a skewed chart to account for the fact that even human babies are spread over a bell curve.
So in all honesty, don't worry about it, but I will leave you with this interesting little detail: The one thing that is considered normal about humans is that they all feel "awkward and abnormal in every way"
You mean, you want to know what a 50% girl, less than a third of the population, looks like?
Trust me, you aren't' a fifty percentile girl. Few girls actually are. And that's nothing to worry about, namely because people's preferences are different. In brief, there's "average" but there's no "normal"